“so for a relationship to work, the man needs to assume the burden of being strong, and being determined, and of taking on some sort of life mission. ” Loveawake says: No, for a relationship to work you just need to be a MAN. If thats a burden, then you are not the MAN, next. You see it as a burden because you dont see it in you, not because it isnt there.

You would think its less of a burden to make her your mission, have her tell her what to do and measure happiness from her point of view, but thats how things never work and never would. Being the MAN and being happy yourself takes 10% of the energy you require to be a functioning beta. The remaining 90% you will use to hunt, have fun, compete with other men and grow.

Because a MAN is what your body and energy scheme is designed to be, being a MAN is whats going to be easy and feel natural. The burden you feel comes from all of the self imposed and externally imposed exigencies, facades, hurts, malfunctioning stuff, eg. neurosis, and you are trying to run a fake alpha persona on top of that, so of course THAT is exhausting. The sensitive man without a backbone, nope, thats not what girls want.

Men were not made to cry, just like girls were not made to conquer danger and change the world. You can find your self-pitty and cry all day and have some people hug you and tell you they understand, oh poor thing! you little thing you are so weak, so cute! everything is going to be alright! But it wouldnt feel alright, would it.